Questions to ask when choosing a therapist

What’s most important in a therapist or counselor is a sense of connection, safety, and support. Ask yourself the following questions:

• Does it seem like the therapist truly cares about you and your problems?

• Do you feel as if the therapist understands you?

• Does the therapist accept you for who you are?

• Would you feel comfortable revealing personal information to this individual?

• Do you feel as if you can be honest and open with this therapist? That you don’t have to hide or pretend you’re someone that you’re not?

• Is the therapist a good listener? Does he or she listen without interrupting, criticizing, or judging? Pick up on your feelings and what you’re really saying? Make you feel heard?

• Did you feel like the therapist respected you?

• Was the therapist condescending?

• Did the therapist seem like a real person or were they playing a role?

• Was the therapist passive or active in the session? Which do you like better?

• Does it seem like the therapist will be open to hearing about all your feelings, including frustrated feelings relating to them?

• Did the therapist have a positive outlook on life?

• Did you feel better or worse after the session?

• Does this seem like a safe place to express your thoughts, concerns and feelings?

  (From HelpGuide and PsychCentral)